Relationships & Heartbreak · Hypnosis session
How to Get Over a Crush on Someone You Still See Every Day
Their name comes up in a group chat and your stomach moves before you’ve read the message. Then Monday arrives and there they are by the kettle, being perfectly ordinary. Here’s how to get over a crush you can’t avoid: three free steps, and a recording for practising them in the evenings.
A quick safety note first.
If it has stopped being a crush and become a lowIf it has dragged on for weeks and is stopping you sleeping, studying or working, or you’ve had thoughts of not wanting to be here, start with a GP. Medicare’s Better Access scheme subsidises as many as 10 individual sessions per calendar year with an eligible mental health professional, such as a psychologist, once your GP sets up a Mental Health Treatment Plan and refers you.
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And if this is really about someone you’re already involved with, who scares you, tells you who to see, monitors your phone or whereabouts, or hurts you, or you’re scared to end it, that needs different help, and this site doesn’t sell a recording for it. Call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732, at any hour. In danger, 000. For counselling, Relationships Australia is on 1300 364 277.
“I’d give this to someone whose crush has outstayed its welcome: a person they see all the time and can’t have. It’s a quiet evening routine for practising the free steps I’ve set out, and the refund lasts ninety days.”
Get Over a Crush
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Does this sound like your week?
- You know which days they’re in, and which way they walk to the lift
- You’ve typed their name into Instagram, then cleared the search
- You changed your shirt twice for an ordinary Tuesday
- A two-word reply from them set the tone for the whole afternoon
- You’ve had long conversations with them that only happened in the shower
That’s a crush, and this page is for it. If you’ve known them for years, or said how you feel and never got a straight answer, the unrequited love page is the better read.
Why practise with a recording?
Because getting over a crush you see daily comes down to small things repeated, and a recording gives them a fixed slot. This one is just under twenty-five minutes of guided relaxation, made for repeat listening. People use it in the evening, away from the moment itself, to rehearse attention going elsewhere and less reaching for the phone.
Does it matter that nobody is in the room with you? A 2026 review by Yim and Derbyshire, the largest recent look at hypnosis for pain, compared how it was delivered and found no meaningful difference between a live clinician, a recording and self-hypnosis. It studied pain, not crushes, but it’s the best evidence there is that a recording isn’t a second-rate version of sitting across from someone.
Do crushes go away on their own?
Nobody has studied crushes directly, so any timetable you read is a guess. The nearest evidence comes from breakups. Sbarra and Emery beeped 58 young adults at random times for 28 days after a relationship ended, asking them to log their emotions each time. Feelings of love dropped at a steady rate rather than all at once, and staying in touch with the ex held that drop back. For a crush you see daily, that second finding matters most.
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Two cautions. Those were people whose relationships had ended, with more history behind them than most crushes. And a slope in a study isn’t a promise about your calendar. What carries across is the direction: on this evidence, every extra chat by the printer is a small brake.
How do you stop thinking about someone you see every day?
Not by ordering yourself to. What you can change is the contact you choose, the checking you do when they’re not around, and where your attention goes in the moments you can see coming. All three are free, and each has some evidence behind it, though none of it was gathered on crushes. I’d start them in this order, and the recording is a good place to rehearse them.
- Cut the contact you choose, and keep the contact you can’t
You can’t skip the Monday meeting. You can skip the long way round past their desk, the second coffee you only buy because they’re in the queue, the message that didn’t need sending. Sbarra and Emery measured contact of any kind, and the chosen kind is the only kind you control. In what’s left, be friendly and brief.
- Stop checking, and mute rather than make a show of it
In Marshall’s 2012 survey of 464 people, the ones who kept looking at an ex’s Facebook page reported more upset, more yearning and less personal growth, while those who were merely still friends online reported less yearning. That’s correlation, and it was exes, not crushes. Still, it puts the problem in the looking, not in being connected. Mute them, move the app off your home screen on the worst evenings, and leave unfollowing until it no longer feels like a statement.
- Decide on the distraction before the moment arrives
In Langeslag and Sanchez’s 2018 experiments, distraction didn’t reduce love feelings for an ex, but it did lift people’s mood, and, like the other strategies tested, it reduced an EEG marker of how much attention people paid to that person. You know when the hard minutes are: the stand-up, the walk to the car park, the scroll at nine at night. Choose beforehand where your attention goes, a call you owe someone or a podcast you actually want, so you aren’t choosing while the feeling is loud.
What doesn’t work is forcing the thought out. In Wegner and Gold’s 1995 experiments, people told to suppress thoughts of a past partner either thought about them more afterwards or showed higher physical arousal. The stop thinking about someone page goes into why.
Is it a crush, or is it unrequited love?
That depends on how much of your actual life they’re part of. Bringle, Winnick and Rydell’s 2013 paper ranked five kinds of unreturned love from least to most entangled: a crush on someone out of reach, a crush on someone close by, actively pursuing someone, pining for an ex, and a relationship in which only one of you is in love. Crushes sit at the loose end, and those first two are what this page is written for.
Loose doesn’t mean painless. The same study rated every kind below returned love for passion and commitment, and above it for turmoil. Hill, Blakemore and Drumm’s 1997 study found men reported more episodes of unrequited love between 16 and 20 than in other age periods, and more than women that age. Ordinary, then, and it can still take up a whole term.
If there’s history in yours, a friendship you hoped would become more, read unrequited love instead. That page is built for the long version; this one for the daily sighting.
Is a crush a kind of addiction?
No study has shown that. The best-known study behind the idea is a 2010 brain scan by Fisher and colleagues of 15 people recently rejected by a partner. When they looked at that person’s photo, areas linked to reward and craving were active, including some also active in cocaine craving. The authors wrote that this “may help explain” obsessive behaviour after rejection. That is a much smaller claim than addiction.
Fifteen people, all rejected partners rather than anyone with a crush, and no follow-up. And a region lighting up on a scan can’t tell you what someone feels. The pull to check is real. Calling it an addiction adds drama, not accuracy.
What is in the Get Over a Crush session?
A single session of 24 minutes and 38 seconds, narrated by Roger Elliott, for listening to repeatedly rather than once. The publisher pitches it at someone with feelings for a person where nothing can come of it, and aims it at the intensity of the feeling, general calm and perspective, and reconnecting with other people. There is no preview of this one.
Get Over a Crush
US$18.95About A$27, paid once, nothing recurring.
- 24 minutes 38 seconds in Roger Elliott’s voice, from the Uncommon Knowledge catalogue
- An MP3 you download straight away and keep
- No preview: you can’t hear a sample before buying
- For a crush on someone nearby or out of reach, not years of shared history
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1,231 purchases of this title, by the publisher’s own count.
The figure is self-reported, and it counts sales rather than results.
Do you stay awake and aware while it plays?
Awake, aware and able to switch it off. You follow every word, you know you’re in your own room, and stopping it takes one tap. It feels more like being lost in a good film than like sleep, and you can simply let a suggestion you disagree with go. Not in the car, please, and if you have epilepsy, ask your doctor before starting.
What has and hasn’t been studied?
Hypnosis won’t make you forget someone, and the publisher’s own page for this session says as much. As for crushes, when this page was put together on 25 September 2026, a PubMed search pairing hypnosis with unrequited love, heartbreak and breakups found no controlled trial, and nothing on crushes specifically. The closest anyone has tested is face-to-face hypnotherapy for bereavement, in one small study, and losing someone to death is not the same as wanting someone you can’t have.
Who is this wrong for?
The session is built for a loud feeling about someone you can’t have. In the situations below, a real person will help more: a GP, a counsellor, or the services in the safety box above.
- You’ve been low for weeks, you’re not sleeping, or you’ve thought about not wanting to be here.
- The person is someone you’re already involved with, and they frighten or control you.
- You keep turning up where they’ll be, or messaging, after they’ve made it clear they aren’t interested. That stops first; Relationships Australia can help.
- It isn’t really a crush: you’ve been close to them for years. The unrequited love page fits better.
- You’re hoping it will make them notice you. It is built for the opposite.
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Questions people ask about getting over a crush
How long does a crush last?
There’s no measured answer for crushes, and any number of weeks you see quoted is a guess. The nearest study, of 58 young adults after a breakup, found love fading steadily over the 28 days it tracked, and more slowly with contact. So it fades, at a pace you partly set yourself by how much of them you choose to see.
Is it normal to have a crush on someone unavailable?
Yes. Bringle and colleagues’ 2013 study listed a crush on someone unavailable among five kinds of unreturned love, and counted unreturned love as four times as common as the returned kind across two years. Wanting someone you can’t have is, on that evidence, far more ordinary than the mutual kind. It still hurts.
Should I unfollow my crush?
Muting may do more good than a dramatic unfollow. Marshall’s 2012 survey of 464 people linked repeatedly looking at an ex’s Facebook with more upset and yearning, yet being plain Facebook friends with less yearning. Exes, not crushes, and correlation only. It still suggests the looking does the damage rather than the connection, so remove the easy route to their profile.
Why can’t I sleep for thinking about them?
Night is when nothing else competes with them. Field and colleagues’ 2009 study of 192 university students after a breakup found the most distressed group also scored higher on intrusive thoughts, on difficulty controlling them, and on sleep disturbance. It can’t show which causes which. If poor sleep has gone on for weeks, see a GP.
Does hypnosis work for getting over a crush?
What hypnosis offers is a calm, focused state and, on a recording, a regular slot for practising the free steps on this page. Whether it helps with crushes hasn’t been tested: the literature search for this page in September 2026 found no controlled trial of hypnosis for unrequited love, heartbreak or breakups, and nothing on crushes specifically. The publisher of this session says plainly that hypnosis can’t make you forget someone.
Can I get my money back if it doesn’t help?
Yes. Within 90 days of buying, pass your order number to the publisher and they return the full price without quibbling. It’s one order per customer. You can’t play a sample of this one first, so that refund is your safety net. Keep the order confirmation email, because the publisher will ask for that number.
Pages that may fit you better
- Unrequited LoveIf there’s years of history, or you said it and never got a straight answer
- Stop Thinking About SomeoneIf it’s past the crush stage and they simply won’t leave your head
- Night WorryIf they turn up mostly at midnight, in a head that won’t settle
- Relationships and heartbreakThe full set, from ghosting to divorce, and which one fits
Tonight, mute them and move the app. It takes two minutes and costs nothing.
Where these numbers come from
- Sbarra DA, Emery RE. The emotional sequelae of nonmarital relationship dissolution: analysis of change and intraindividual variability over time. Pers Relatsh. 2005;12(2):213-32. doi:10.1111/j.1350-4126.2005.00112.x
- Marshall TC. Facebook surveillance of former romantic partners: associations with postbreakup recovery and personal growth. Cyberpsychol Behav Soc Netw. 2012;15(10):521-6. doi:10.1089/cyber.2012.0125
- Langeslag SJE, Sanchez ME. Down-regulation of love feelings after a romantic break-up: self-report and electrophysiological data. J Exp Psychol Gen. 2018;147(5):720-33. doi:10.1037/xge0000360
- Wegner DM, Gold DB. Fanning old flames: emotional and cognitive effects of suppressing thoughts of a past relationship. J Pers Soc Psychol. 1995;68(5):782-92. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.68.5.782
- Bringle RG, Winnick T, Rydell RJ. The prevalence and nature of unrequited love. SAGE Open. 2013;3(2):2158244013492160. doi:10.1177/2158244013492160
- Hill CA, Blakemore JEO, Drumm P. Mutual and unrequited love in adolescence and young adulthood. Pers Relatsh. 1997;4(1):15-23. doi:10.1111/j.1475-6811.1997.tb00127.x
- Fisher HE, Brown LL, Aron A, et al. Reward, addiction, and emotion regulation systems associated with rejection in love. J Neurophysiol. 2010;104(1):51-60. doi:10.1152/jn.00784.2009
- Field T, Diego M, Pelaez M, et al. Breakup distress in university students. Adolescence. 2009;44(176):705-27. PMID: 20432597
- Çınaroğlu M, Yılmazer E, Ülker SV, et al. Effects of Ericksonian hypnotherapy versus cognitive behavioral therapy on prolonged grief among university students: a randomized clinical trial. Int J Clin Exp Hypn. 2026;74(1):93-120. doi:10.1080/00207144.2025.2464747
- Yim TH, Derbyshire SWG. A systematic review of hypnosis for clinical pain relief. Eur J Pain. 2026;30(8):e70369. doi:10.1002/ejp.70369
- Australian Government Department of Health. Better Access initiative. health.gov.au/our-work/better-access-initiative
Ernest McLeod, clinical hypnotherapist. An Adelaide practice, seeing clients across Australia by video. Fourteen years in practice.
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I picked this session because it’s pitched at an ordinary crush and aims at the intensity of the feeling, not at forgetting the person. More →
Just under twenty-five minutes, and three months to ask for your money back
If you’re all right in yourself and the feeling is just too loud for a Tuesday, try it for a few evenings.
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Results vary from person to person, and hypnosis does not replace medical care or treatment. This is self-help audio, not therapy or a substitute for professional care. If low mood has lasted weeks or you’ve thought about not wanting to be here, see a GP or ring Lifeline on 13 11 14. If someone you’re involved with frightens or controls you, call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, or 000 in danger.